‘Selfies’ are now an every day part of life. Like walking, breathing, eating…taking a selfie is considered the new normal – a way of capturing a moment in your life and sharing it with the world around you.
There is great beauty in taking photographs and selfies themselves can tell us so much about how you’re feeling and who you are in any particular moment.
The dark side of selfies is that they can become a celebration of a personal image – a moment you can never quite recapture in the same way again.
In an image obsessed society, it’s easy to get caught up in comparing yourself not only against a previous version of yourself from a few years ago, but also against other people.
Am I pretty enough?
Am I worthy enough?
Will this get enough likes?
All of this feeds the energy of the ego. While it’s good to have a little ego, it’s when it becomes overpowering and you become too concerned with the image you are projecting that the trouble begins.
Letting go of the selfies side of yourself is not easy as on some level it means not caring or giving extra time and attention to yourself. It doesn’t mean not taking care of yourself – it simply means you don’t become too attached to the image or personality you are putting out into the world.
The modern age is a time of instant Instagram likes and counting your value against the number of facebook fans your personality or projects achieve. The mistake many are making is associating their worth against these numbers.
That’s when you can become conscious of your value and worth against this form of attachment. Suffering is therefore inevitable…
It’s not as simple as avoiding social media. Many of us are hooked to our phones and tablets – 2.95 billion people are expected to be using social media by the year 2020 – that’s a third of the world’s population.
Yet if you’re a sensitive person then using social media may be more draining than it is productive at times. You might find that people’s status updates upset or anger you…or even that you get dragged into the energy or ‘feeling’ behind the words.
When this energy comes in so many different directions, it can be challenging to stay focused as the feeling becomes compounded. You start losing energy, feeling angry, tired or even sad. That deflated feeling can continue on and start to affect your every day life.
The line between reality and the virtual world is beginning to blur more than ever. We no longer have to ‘see’ people in real life – we can conduct entire relationships online if we choose to.
As so many of us are struggling to find time away from social media, we need to make a conscious decision at times to create our own digital detox. This means spending time away from computers and mobile technology so you can find some solitude and personal time to reflect on your life.
When you are constantly bombarded with technology, it can cause stress and anxiety – eye strain is the least of the problems! A digital detox may work wonders during times like this to help you to feel grounded and secure in yourself.
It will also encourage you to let go…and become more attuned to the energy inside of you than the world outside. When you can come into this space of peace and learn to let go, that’s where you can release so much attachment and expectation that’s involved from distracting yourself with technology.
Peace can only come when you learn to co-exist with technology, using social media as a tool to communicate, inform, engage or be entertained…instead of treating it as an the ultimate extension or expression of your personality.
All of these are just ideas and have no real impact however unless you take action and start addressing the need for endless selfies in the first place. Don’t let social media define your social worth – take back your power with these simple tips and you’ll be well on your way to feeling on top of the world…even in your moments of solitude.