Transformation: How Three Simple Words Could Change Your Life

Transformation. What does it mean to you? Do you think of someone going under an amazing catalyst and coming out feeling wonderful, different and renewed? We may often think of transformation in physical terms for this reason. We see Ultimate Makeover Shows on the television and assume that a team of make-up, beauty and fashion experts will work wonders on a plain jane, with the end results being that she could give even the best glamour pusses a run for their money.

Yet that ‘magical’ transformation is very often fleeting. The physical transformation complete they may look in the mirror and see that yes, they have made the most of themselves beauty wise – but they still feel the same on the inside. Over time, this physical illusion begins to fade and they return to looking and feeling as they did before. This is what many people tend to forget. Sometimes there is an expectation that if all looks great in the mirror, then that person must be feeling wonderful on the inside too. Unfortunately, this may not be the case. The outside ‘shell’ may actually be telling nothing about how a person is actually feeling on the inside.

Transformation Begins On the Inside

We’ve often heard the saying, ‘Don’t judge a book by its cover’ which often seems to be at odds with the saying, ‘A picture says a thousand words’. Yet there is a certain truth in both. It’s not always possible to really understand the value of something by looking at it on a surface level. Just as we can’t know how deep a pond or pool of water is by looking at it, we need to delve into its waters and experience it from within to truly understand what is happening beneath and to determine how deep the waters really are.

If we feel that we aren’t good enough, then we need to look at why we are experiencing these feelings. It may be that we have been telling ourselves terrible things that don’t serve us at all. Thoughts like ‘I’m not worthy’ or ‘I’m not good enough’ can eventually turn into deeply engrained beliefs if we are repeating them often enough. Therefore, it’s highly recommended that we learn how to ‘reprogram’ our beliefs if we are feeling this way. It might not be an easy process, but it will serve us better in the long term.

Learning to let go of our old outdated thinking is key if we want change to happen. But this can be easier said than done. In many instances, we may find that our thoughts often work against us. In these cases, we need to work with the root of the belief and pull it out directly.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) therapy is one such tool that can help you to release old, outdated beliefs. By ‘tapping’ on the body’s acupressure points (in direct accordance with the body’s meridian points or energy centres), it’s possible to release negative beliefs that may have engrained themselves deep into your psyche. Once these are released, some kind of healing may take place – this could involve uncontrollable crying, shaking or bursts of anger for example. But afterwards you’ll feel different and clearer as the energy dissapates and a new way of thinking and feeling starts to come into fruition. To do this effectively, it’s worthwhile going to a qualified EFT practitioner who can help you to reach your goals. Check out the Association for the Advancement of Meridian Techniques directory in the Resources section below for more information.

Another powerful technique that can help you to let go of outdated beliefs is to focus on affirmations. Using affirmations with the tapping method listed above is extremely effective at helping to eliminate outdated beliefs. Affirmations can help us to reassess our beliefs and refocus them from negative towards the positive. For example, if you hold a consistent belief that you aren’t valuable, you may find that on a subconscious level you are drawing more people and events into your life that vibe with this frequency. Once you change this affirmation by for example, affirming that, ‘I am successful’ or ‘I am valuable’ and repeating it on a daily basis – you may notice that it creates powerful shifts within your psyche. This technique is most effective when accompanied by tapping as it is imprinting the positive affirmation directly into your energy centres, i.e. the chakras or the body’s energy meridians. If you want to learn more about the power of affirmations, check out the resource ‘The Power of Affirmations’ by Louise Hay below.

Working on Yourself is Love.

You might not realise it at first. Society has told us that we need to focus on gaining the attention and approval of everyone around us; but working on yourself is the purest form of love that there. For how can you possibly love another, if you cannot first love yourself? This is so very important for your self-growth and ability to reach your truest potential, both in yourself and your ability to recognise it in others.

Saying ‘I love you’ to yourself on a daily basis in the mirror, is a great way to ensure that you recognise your own self-worth and start to live up to what you envision for yourself. In that way, when things are seemingly going wrong around you – you know how to react accordingly and not to let anything upset you. It’s very important to learn how to not react when a situation doesn’t quite go to plan. There are many times in life where events may not go according to how we think they will. When that happens, we have to take a step back and assess the situation. From here we can understand how to make it work for us and accept the outcome for what it is – part of the overall challenge of life. Once we acknowledge this, it is much easier to make progress towards forgiving any perceived ‘bad’ situation, challenge, opportunity or people who we feel may have wronged us in some way, or not made us happy as we initially thought they would.


Finding Freedom to Live, Love and Be Yourself

Once we forgive them and ourselves for whatever pain they put us through, we set ourselves free. This is the best thing we can do if we want to live a life that’s happy and filled with love. Forgive whatever has been troubling us and feeling renewed, start on the path towards true happiness by focusing on our core spiritual practice. When we do this, ultimately we are liberating ourselves from the cycles of karma that can otherwise enslave us – both mentally and spiritually.

True freedom begins when we learn to let go of what we cannot change and accept what we can. And sometimes transformation starts with just three simple words you choose to repeatedly tell yourself and being strong and willing enough to love yourself every step of the way.


AAMET International – Association for the Advancement of Meridian Energy Techniques

Louise Hay – The Power of Affirmations


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