In the game of life, it’s easy to get caught up in and become affected by your own personal stories. If you don’t learn the art of mindfulness, you may carry these experiences through with us on a daily basis, thus affecting our thoughts, judgements and criticisms.
Mindfulness in effect, is about setting yourself free from the chains of your own negative thoughts or experiences. By giving yourself permission to engage fully in what you are doing right now, rather than losing yourself in the mind’s stories.
Mindfulness Gives You The Path To Freedom
Humans are creatures of habit, so when surprising things happen that set us off course – we may turn and react in ways that no longer serve our wellbeing.
Mindfulness is the practice of both self-awareness (how you choose to react to what is happening) and greater awareness for both the mind, body and soul. This means paying attention to your own unconscious thoughts, feelings and behaviours that may otherwise undermine your emotional, physical and spiritual wellbeing.
By learning to control your mind, scientific evidence shows that it can reduce stress, lower blood pressure, improve your relationships and overall enhance the quality of your life.
Who’s Making The Move in Your Mind?
You may think you are in control of your mind. However, if you are constantly feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or angered by what’s happening to you, then you are not in full control.
If you are choosing to react to everything that happens to you, then you are not being mindful of your thoughts and feelings – you are letting your unconscious mind run the show.
When you live mindfully, this doesn’t mean that you have to meditate, take up yoga or even adopt Buddhist or zen practices. Mindfulness is simply about making the move to become fully present in the moment and with what you are experiencing.
It Starts With Self-Awareness
The question to ask yourself, especially when experiencing a stressful situation is; ‘How am I feeling right now?’ When you can identify the emotion that you are experiencing in each moment, you can apply self-awareness and begin to breathe through it.
If you live too much in the past or spend too much time in the future that hasn’t occurred yet, you begin to create anxiety, disharmony, uncertainty and unhappiness in life.
While it may be impossible to constantly live in the present moment; awareness of negative past experiences can be useful as a guide…so as to encourage you not to repeat past behaviours or actions.
Living in the present moment means observing your every thought and action. Asking questions as to what it is coming up for you and why. Then applying non-judgement or attachment to the outcome. For when you judge, you create harm.
By being fully in the present moment, you let go of your expectations, disappointment and even fear…and simply observe what Is happening. In the observation, you become fully open to new possibilities and unshackle yourself from any painful stories or negative experiences you may have endured.
Freedom From Thought And Personal Power
Start by asking yourself every time a negative thought arises, ‘Is that really true?’ By shining a light on the fear-based thoughts, you can begin to release yourself from the chain of events attached to it.
Freedom comes from living mindfully and being in the present moment. This has been my biggest life challenge because I have a vivid imagination and as a sensitive individual, I soaked up everyone’s energy like a sponge.
Carrying this around over the years caused me a great deal of emotional pain and created cracks in my self-esteem and resistance within my personal life. Practicing mindfulness is what saved me and gave me the power to sail my mind away from the shores of self-destruction.
Letting Go is Part Of The Game
Learning to let go means rinsing yourself clean of everyone’s negativity and staying in your power. If your mind is like a chessboard – mindfulness is the practice and strategy of being able to see ahead – beyond your current opposition’s move. This allow you to stay in control, select the winning move and to also take defeat as simply part of the game.
Mindfulness can teach you the power of non-attachment, personal and emotional intelligence, along with how to apply it into your daily routine. Get into the habit of monitoring your every thought and ask, ‘Is this helping or hurting me?’ and from here, begin to rebalance and take back your power so you can move In a positive direction.