“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
What letting go means: I found this letting go quote above so apt because while everyone knows how difficult it can be, no one talks about how it can improve your life.
For when you set boundaries, not only do you find freedom, you also give your power back to yourself. Only you are in control of your life, and thus, you set the tone for how you wish to be treated.
Maybe you put up with bad behaviour from others, or you choose to always see the good in others. It is an admirable quality to always want to see the best in people. Yet it is simply not realistic.
What Letting Go Means For You…
Self-care starts with you. If someone isn’t treating you right, or is impinging upon your freedom, its up to you to set personal boundaries and tell them straight, or get them out of your life.
Forgiveness is an admiral quality, but if someone is consistently treating you bad or showing bad behaviour to you, its time to review why you are giving your time and energy to them. If you are an empath its easy to think that the world acts like you, or always has your best interests at heart. Unfortunately, this isn’t really the case.
Boundaries Set Your Level Of Self-Love
People see what they want to see. But that doesn’t mean that someone’s thoughts or words always align with their actions. This is especially true when it comes to the arena of relationships. For you attract whatever is a reflection of you, on some level.
Therefore, if someone isn’t treating you appropriately – you are saying to the Universe that their poor behaviour is acceptable to you. And so you consistently meet people who will try and break you in some way. It is the human ego that wants to serve as a self-protecting mechanism, yet it can result in selfish behaviour – often at the expense of others.
For empaths, it’s worth remembering that not everyone has good intentions or a clear state of mind. Many may have been broken or hurt, or are reacting based on previous rejections. People rarely change their behaviour,so you have to show them how you want to be treated.
The only way you can break this cycle of pain is to step out, recognise your own self-worth and say to yourself and to others you will no longer accept their bad behaviour.
Why Letting Go Is Hard
Part of the problem is that many of us have been conditioned to see letting go in the negative. While it’s not easy, sometimes it is necessary. You can only grow as much as you are willing to push yourself out of your comfort zone.
Saying ‘no’ to bad behaviour is a way of saying to the Universe you do not accept this anymore. And so, you only accept better behaviour or to be treated exceptionally well.
Letting go feels like sacrifice – but it is actually the ultimate liberation for your mind and personal growth for your soul. You can only grow as much as you are willing to go within and show yourself self-love.
Without self-love, life becomes a free-for-all and its easy for people to take advantage of you. By constantly caring what others think, you take on their attitude, energy and carry the weight of their opinions with you in life.
Life Is About Letting Go
The only way to true self-love is to set personal boundaries. Learn to see letting go as as a natural process, just as your body sheds its layers of skin. Its a naturally occurring process that is necessary for your own health and vitality. By not letting go, you stay stuck in the past and unable to move on. And you become unhealthy in emotional spirit.
Remember, there’s a big, wide world out there filled with opportunity and abundance. If someone or something isn’t right for you, is mistreating you or causing you pain, then you have every right to move on. Wish them well and put your loving energy back onto you.
Love is within you, its an internal force that radiates outwards. No one in the external world can truly make you happy, as its all a temporary experience. If you believe you are consciousness having a human experience, you will see the validity in this statement.
You have been here before, had countless lives, connections and relations. As much as they may have been beautiful experiences, eventually there comes a point where you have to let go. Whether that’s because a connection is no longer healthy, its served its purpose or life lessons, or simply that one’s soul left the physical body.
The more you understand about the importance of letting go, the easier it is to keep on moving on and find healthier, more positive connections.
What Letting Go Means And How It Changed My Life
As an empath I have struggled with this concept of letting go. I always felt that everyone was the same as me in their world outlook. It took a lot of different personal situations for me to develop my fire, and to learn to set more boundaries.
In friendships and relationships, I have endured unpleasant experiences that could’ve jaded me, or left me broken. Yet it was only in retreating into myself, and letting go of these so-called ‘connections’ that I could see the truth, and how it wasn’t in my best interests to stay friends. For it was effectively saying to my inner self, that I was accepting of their poor behaviour.
And when I let go, I invited new connections into my life. As if by magic, I received an influx of friendly messages from people who were picking up on my new energy. And people who clearly do the inner work, just as I have.
Self-care is so much more than just a few affirmations. Its the individual realisation of your own power. And being able to accept that not everyone is meant to be in your life. in fact, it feels good to let go of what is no longer serving you. It may sound a little selfish, but it’s the only way to let go and live joyfully.